As parents, it’s hard to say no to our children; we want to give them the world and more on top of that. We want them to be happy and always satisfied–but this can often lead to a child becoming a spoiled teen. A spoiled teen is a young person who may be displaying disruptive behaviors if they don’t get what they want all of the time. Learning to teach your teen coping skills when they don’t necessarily get what they want will not only help them excel in life, but it’ll transform them from a spoiled teen into a young adult. CNN recently published an article discussing the ways you can help your spoiled teen grow and develop into a responsible teen.
A spoiled teen just needs direction
Wanting more isn’t necessarily bad, there’s a healthy amount that’s needed to find motivation to work towards achievements and goals; but there’s a dark side of wanting. When a teen becomes combative and irrational when they don’t get what they want, that’s a problem.
A spoiled teen leads to an adult who can’t manage money, keep jobs, or reach their full potential. Having a spoiled teen doesn’t mean you failed as a parent, many parents deal with this same issue. What it does mean is that you have to make a choice: help your child thrive by helping them develop a sense of responsibility and coping skills or give them everything they want and watch them struggle in the real world. It’s hard, it’s uncomfortable, but it’s all for the better.
Advice on how to put your foot down for the better
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries
A spoiled teen often has issue recognizing boundaries. They have a hard time seeing that it’s not okay to freak out in Target because their mother won’t buy them the shoes they want. This is frequently due to a lack of structured rules or a lack of enforcement of standing rules. To change this, create rules, make them clear, and start enforcing them. Yes, it’ll be a shock at first, it’ll take some adjusting, but eventually your teen will get used to it and begin to understand the boundaries of the real world.
Teach them tradeoffs
The adult world is full of tradeoffs. Buy a new car or save that money for retirement? Spend extra money for organic or use that towards gas? These are questions we all face in daily life and to prepare your child for that, you have to give them the coping capabilities and skills to make their own decisions.
If you often give your teen any money they ask for, maybe you should start limiting it. Instead of giving them whatever amount they need whenever, give them a set amount at the beginning of each month. If they run out, they need to learn to spend it more wisely. If they don’t have enough, maybe they need to save for a couple of months to reach their goal. This teaches them skills they need in the adult world.
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