A little bit of back to school stress is normal. The transition from relaxed summer life to structured school life isn’t an easy one and is fully expected to run into some bumps–but for some students, it’s more of a Mount Everest rather than a small hill.
The root of serious back to school stress varies, but for many it’s connected to bullying and loneliness. Maybe they’ve struggled with bullying in the past or seen others go through it, either way it can cause a dreadful fear of returning to school.
Bullying and back to school stress
I’m sure you have at least one unpleasant memory from school–not everything can always be rainbows and butterflies. For students who have back to school stress, school isn’t a place of learning and exploration, it’s a scary place.
Many struggling students have issues fitting in or finding positive friends–this often makes them a target for bullies. Bullies pick out those who have low self-esteem and few friends, which makes struggling teens a perfect target. In grades 6 to 12, around 28 percent of students report being bullied. That’s over 1 in 4 students.
Now, for some of those students, it doesn’t result in lifetime issues like anxiety–but for some of them it does. Those are the students that are plagued by back to school stress.
Questions run through their minds: Will I make friends this year? Will I be forced to sit alone at lunch? Will I get targeted by a bully? Will I be mocked for who I am or what I look like?
As adults, it’s easy for us to say, “It doesn’t matter what people think, you shouldn’t care,” but that not only undermines your child’s anxieties, it worsens them. You’re telling them that their fears are irrational, which lowers their self-confidence and makes them feel crazy.
How to help your teen with their stress and bullying
If you’ve noticed that your teen is really having issues adjusting to being back in school, it may be time to sit them down and really talk about it.
Teens often feel as if they can’t come to their parents with their problems–you need to make it clear to your child that they absolutely can and should.
Talk to your teen, tell them you’re there for support and that you’ll be there for them no matter the issue. You have to assure them that their fears and doubts aren’t crazy and you can help them work through it.
Bullying continues to be a raging issue within the educational system and it’s our job as parents to talk to and watch our children when it comes to bullying. If you believe your teen is struggling with a bullying issue, it’s critical to reach out to a professional for further guidance.
blueFire Wilderness is here for your family
blueFire Wilderness is a wilderness therapy program for teens. We help teens, ages 11 to 17, grappling with depression, ADHD, risky teen behaviors, defiance, and other emotional or behavioral problems.
At blueFire, we strive to help each client find their inner confidence and succeed. We believe that through a balance of self-assessment, insight oriented therapy, outdoor living, adventure activities and academic focus these teens will find their true selves. We provide a supportive opportunity for parents and children to reconnect and strengthen their relationship.
For more information about how we help with back to school stress at blueFire Wilderness, please call 1 (844) 413-1999 today.