The parent vs. teen power struggle is a burning sensation that we will all feel at one point. Your teen can get on your nerves. And you can get on your teen’s nerves. When the tensions build, interacting with your teen can feel impossible. It can be extremely easy to lash out and blame your child or dismiss them for being overdramatic. While this is easy, it is not effective.
Developing a sense of understanding and connection with your teen is critical for surviving the teenage years. Talking with other parents or getting outside advice on ways to address the disconnect is a great starting place. Below are a few more tips that can help you seek a healthy relationship with your teen.
- Channel your inner-teen. Recall your own teenage experiences. This can help you to better identify with your teen’s growing pains. Read books or articles from a teenage perspective. These are great resources for helping you better understand what your teen is going through. We tend to mark teens as being dramatic. It’s easy to deem their problems as insignificant or just not that serious. But that’s not true. Teens are learning how to deal with conflict, set boundaries, achieve goals, make sense of their thoughts and emotions and figure out who they are. By showing empathy and a sense of understanding of their feelings, they will learn that you genuinely care about them and their life.
- Open the door. Literally. Let your teen know you are there for them and that your door is always open. Creating the open line of communication with your child helps significantly strengthen your bond.
- Take a break from giving advice and get some. Talk to your teen about something you’re struggling with. Ask for their input. Let them be a part of your challenges too. This is a great way to show them you value their input. It also shows them that talking about things can be helpful and that no one has it all together. Plus, your teen may offer a perspective on your own issue that you never considered. It’s a win-win situation.
- Find fun together. Identify an activity that you and your teen both enjoy doing. Make time for this activity throughout the week. Sometimes sitting face-to-face to talk can be tiring an overwhelming. Doing an enjoyable activity can reinforce that you value each other’s company and it can be a great way to let out stress. The activity can be something simple like riding bikes, playing tennis, gardening, or cooking.
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